We’ve all felt disappointment in life. Situations and people let us down. You’ve been there. I’ve been there. And we’ll likely be there again. There’s one thing that leads to disappointment in every situation. Whether it’s relationships, work or even a vacation or fun family experience that you thought would be more fun.
This one thing causes the feelings of disappointment, frustration and being let down. That’s right – ONE THING. What is it? Expectation.
Expectation – every single time.
Expectation is basically this concoction we’ve created in our minds about how a particular scenario is going to go. Quite often, this expectation – what we WANT to happen – is not what actually happens in reality.
When reality doesn’t measure up to your expectations, that’s where the feelings of let down and disappointment show up. I’ve met many people with unreasonable expectations. They’re either always disappointed or they always feel like a failure for not meeting their own expectations.
Does this sound like you? You can let go of expectations and roll with things as they happen. Often, it’s as easy as making a decision to do so.
Expectation is a form of control. It’s you wanting to control another person or a situation. It’s you wanting to set the bar and hope, expect, that it’s going to come true.
What if you flip that around? What if instead, you release your need for control and the emotional attachment to the outcome and instead let life unfold in front of you? How will your relationships change when you stop setting expectations and allow the other person to show up as they are? What would happen if you accepted situations at work and allowed the journey to unfold before you instead of expecting something to happen today or go the way you want?
Often times we’re like that little kid who doesn’t get what they want and throws a temper tantrum. The disappointment comes from not getting what you want.
The truth is, we don’t always get what we want.
Your challenge today is to start to release your emotional attachment to outcomes. Release your expectations and just allow life allow to unfold. I’m not saying to sit back and let life pass you by. I am saying the only thing you can 100% control is you. You can’t control a situation or a person, but you can control how you think about it and respond. As you get better at this, you’ll notice that you feel disappointed less often.