The #1 Reason you are feeling let down and how to overcome it by Heather Quisel

The #1 Reason You’re Feeling Let Down, and How to Overcome it

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We’ve all felt disappointment in life. Situations and people let us down. You’ve been there. I’ve been there. And we’ll likely be there again. There’s one thing that leads to disappointment in every situation. Whether it’s relationships, work or even a vacation or fun family experience that you thought would be more fun. This one thing causes the feelings of disappointment, frustration and being let down. That’s right – ONE THING. What is it? Expectation. Expectation – every single time. Expectation is basically this concoction we’ve created in our minds about how a particular scenario is going to go. Quite often, this expectation – what we WANT to happen – is not what actually happens in reality. When reality doesn’t measure up to your expectations, that’s where the feelings of let down and disappointment show up. I’ve met many people with unreasonable expectations. They’re either always disappointed or they always…

How do you use the first hour of the day by Heather Quisel

How do you use your first hour of the day?

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When I was a new mom, I was encouraged to start a gratitude journal. On one half of the paper I was to write down all the things each day I’d been grateful for. On the other side of the paper, I wrote down the things that kept me from being grateful. In the early days, I could write down a lot more things that kept me from happiness than things that filled me up, but as time went on, and I learned how to LOOK for things to be grateful for, my list became increasingly heavy on the gratitude. It’s about leading a grateful LIFE, friends! Today, I still practice this kind of focus. Each and every morning, long before checking emails, or social media, or even everyday radio stations. I read and sit quietly. I read something inspiring to fill my mind with what’s possible, reminding me of…

How to Seek Growth and Abundance from overwhelm and frustration by Heather Quisel

How to Seek Growth and Abundance from Overwhelm and Frustration

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Think about your life. If you’re anything like me, it’s so easy to get down on yourself for not being perfect – not being the perfect spouse, the perfect mom, the perfect business owner, etc. We feel the need to be right all the time. Those days and feelings are real. Those days seem to highlight all of your faults. You can’t get out of your own way. A movie reel of your failures runs through your mind. It’s life, but it can bog you down. When I get that feeling, I sometimes change my location. I’ll work from a coffee shop. Doing this means I can take a step back. So can you. When you get that feeling that you’re failing at EVERYTHING. Reframe it. Pause the “failure” movie reel and create one highlighting all the things you’re doing well. When you’re challenged or frustrated thinking about what’s actually…

How to Discipline Yourself for Success when you don't feel like it by Heather Quisel

How to Discipline Yourself for Success When You Don’t Feel Like It

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You know those mornings you wake up and all you want to do is hit snooze? You’ve got a huge case of the “I don’t wannas.” You don’t want to get up, you don’t want to shower and you definitely don’t want to go to work. I have those too. We all do. When this recently happened to me, my brain kicked in and started making excuses for why I didn’t have to get up, go to the gym, etc. Here’s how I deal with it…I put one front in front of the other. I get up. I go to the bathroom. Put my clothes on, etc. I know that I could skip a day here or there, especially when it feels like my body and brain are fighting me.  BUT skipping those tough days isn’t smart. Working through, PUSHING through those days is how you set yourself up for…

What do you need to eliminate from a problem to resolve it by Heather Quisel

What do you need to ELIMINATE from a problem to resolve it?

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I love Tim Farris. I was gifted the book “The Four-Hour Work Week,” and it completely shifted my mindset. The whole idea is to leverage your time and your life in productive ways so you can do the things you want to do. Tim Farris also has a podcast. I love his interviews. You get so many different perspectives. In a recent podcast, he was discussing problem solving and questions you should be asking yourself to achieve the biggest results. This one nugget I took away can make HUGE changes in your life. Typically, when we run into problems, our instinct to fix it is to DO something. DO more of this or that…DO something differently. Tim Farris has a different take on it. He says, look at what you can SUBTRACT from a situation to solve the problem. Think about it as “not to do list.” What can you…

Exude Professionalism and Confidence to Attract the Same by Heather Quisel

Exude Professionalism and Confidence to Attract the Same

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If you run your gig, this post is for you! When I first started my business, I was a stay at home mom (SAHM). It was a total mindset shift. I had to figure out what that looked like. As I share my mindset shift, think about how this may apply in your own life and business to help you set yourself up for success. I jumped in to the skin care networking marketing business and the first thing I asked myself was “What does a business owner look like? What does she wear? How does she show up?” It sounds really basic, but there’s so much power in how you show up in the world. SAHMs were comfort clothes – jeans, yoga pants, etc. Here I was wanting to grow a dynamic business. Clearly, I couldn’t show up to a business meeting in SAHM clothes. For whatever reason, my…

Replace Negative I Am Statements that Hold You Back

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We all have these inner voices that run around inside our heads. They make blanket statements, that we believe to be true. These statements usually start with “I am…” They can be positive or encouraging. I am smart or I am stupid. Which one you choose to say and choose to believe makes all the difference on your path to success. I have this friend who says “I’m just a poor farm girl…” I know she means it as a tongue-in-cheek statement, but it’s no longer who she is. Continuing to say and embody it holds her back. Check yourself. What “I am” statements do you make that keep you from achieving your next goal? You’ve maybe been holding on to them for a long time and are now outdated and not relevant to your current life. They don’t accurately describe who you are today. Nor do they promote the…

Fail Miserably... beautifully by Heather Quisel

Fail Miserably…Beautifully!

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In the words of John Kennedy, “Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.” When did we get this idea that failure is the worst thing that can happen? It’s not. It’s a chance to learn and grow. I recently had an experience that illustrates this…beautifully! I’m working on a college course with my marketing team. As we’re on a packed video conference, one of the leaders had a brilliant idea to create a virtual breakout room to work in smaller groups. It seemed like it should be simple enough to do based on the YouTube videos. It worked – yay! It wasn’t seamless, but we got it done. Because we were willing to risk failing in front of 100 sets of eyes, we wouldn’t have had this breakthrough. This new way of working together that makes us all more productive and more successful. Being will risk failure meant…

Resist Negative Forces, Beat Down Excuses, and Level Up Your Life by Heather Quisel

Resist negative forces, beat down excuses, and Level Up Your Life

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  Let’s talk about excuses and rationalizations. We all do it. For example, when I know it’s a day to make a video post, but I’m working from a coffee shop or other public location. I can run through in my head a million reasons that I could put off doing the video. It’s weird having people watch me make a video, it’s loud in the shop, I’m not sure what I want to say, etc. Any of those excuses make it seem easy for me to put off doing what I know I have to do. The only problem with putting it off is that it also puts off my success; it puts off reaching my goals. I bet this sounds familiar to a lot of you. It’s normal. We all make excuses to stall. It’s called resistance and it ALWAYS shows up when you’re on the verge or…

Are you Limited by Playing Small How to Overcome Resistance by Heather Quisel

Are You Limited By Playing Small? How To Overcome Resistance.

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  I’m really lucky, I get to do what I love for a living. I help women reach their goals. I so often find we’re ready for goals, but actually achieving the goal is really scary. Sound familiar? We set the bar high. There’s so much excitement surrounding running for the goal, but then, sometimes, actually reaching that goal creates a lot of fear, anxiety, and self-doubt. That all builds up to be resistance. The book War of Art is great for personal development for high-achieving, goal setting people. In it, this resistance is discussed a lot. The resistance you feel anytime you’re trying to do something that matters shows up as hesitation, procrastination, over-thinking, skepticism, and excuses. Excuses are probably the biggest form of resistance. Things like “I don’t have time today.” Or “I’ve got to focus on the kids’ school projects” are excuses. You’ve been juggling your time…