“One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you always wanted. Do it now.” Paulo Coehlo
My home recently lost a loved one – my husband’s grandmother, at 101 years old. She was amazing, As I’ve been reflecting on her passing and all I’ve learned from her (she was also my grandmother for 20 years), it’s the idea of “do it now” that sticks with me the most.
Lois lived 101 solid years, and when I say lived, I mean, this woman lived! The day before she died she was still beating her son and daughter-in-law at Rummikub! Her mind was as sharp as a tack and she never wasted a single day.
She lost and buried 3 husbands in her lifetime. Three. Each time she had to start over, redefine life, create a new normal. I never once saw Lois burdened, bitter, or saddened; every single day of her 101 years of life she got up, got her designer clothes on, and did her hair and makeup with a SMILE. Everyday. What a legacy, my friends.
In her 80’s, she was still snowmobiling with her late husband, and she swam with dolphins at 89.
In her 90’s, she was mining for sapphires at my father-in-law’s cabin and took a safari with her daughter across South Africa.
She visited 56 countries in her lifetime.
Talk about a legacy, my friends.
My father-in-law shared a story with us the night before her funeral about a conversation Lois had had with her late husband. Her husband had mentioned that he’d always wanted to go to the Kentucky Derby. So Lois bought tickets and they went. Just like that.
How many of us get stuck waiting, wishing, hoping to do things one day?
How many of us are waiting for permission to do the things we’ve always wanted to do?
How many of us are living in scarcity: believing there’s not enough money, not enough time, or not enough anything to do the things we deeply wish to do?
I know I often fall into these traps.
I don’t know this for sure, but I think it’s safe to say that after loving and losing 3 men in her life, Lois didn’t have time to wait for someday. She learned all too well just how short life was, and that nothing was guaranteed. She didn’t waste time wishing life were different, waiting for the right time, or waiting for someone to make things happen for her. She got an idea, a wish, a dream, a hope – and she did it.
Lois lived long because she knew time could be cut short. Stop waiting, my friend. Stop wishing. Go to the damn Derby.