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My friend, I want you to stop making your life so hard. It’s hard when you set the same goals year after year and don’t reach them. It’s deflating and frustrating. Chances are that you already KNOW what you need to do to reach your goals, whether that goal is to exercise more, to reach a new business milestone, or to lose weight.

So why aren’t you doing it?

Today, I’m going to teach you a powerful reframing technique to hack your mindset that will make your own success inevitable, plus I’m dishing out 4 strategies to turn goals into results. But first. . . we need to talk about the The D-Word.

Let’s talk about Discipline

A lot of people hate that word. Personally, I love discipline but a lot of people shy away from it because discipline is associated with negative emotions – something we do to our kids when they misbehave or when we’re forcing ourselves to do something that we just don’t want to do.

Let's talk about discipline

It can feel constrictive and restrictive, but discipline gets a bad rap. Something that I learned in life is that I don’t like somebody else’s discipline or rules, but I do like my own. Because that’s when I see real results happen. So when it comes down to it, I actually thrive on discipline.

Discipline does not have to be hard or restrictive.

Let’s take weight loss, for example.

I so often see my coaching clients caught in the same cycle of negative thinking before we break the chains of their negative thought loops. Have you ever found yourself asking, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I reach this stupid goal? Why can’t I ever do it?” and you’re constantly working down this rabbit hole of spiraling negativity… Those questions aren’t helpful at all. In fact, they might send you straight to a pint of Ben & Jerry’s.

But I want you to start asking yourself another set of questions.

This one reframing technique will change EVERYTHING
Whatever this thing is in your life that you’re working towards, stop asking “why can’t I do this? Why it is taking so long? Why is this so hard for me?” and ask this instead. . .

How will I be successful at {this thing}? Why am I so good at achieving {this thing}? What behaviors, skills, and tasks do I do to reach {this thing}?

This tool is powerful.

Your brain is always looking to validate and solve problems. If you ask the right questions, your brain will start filling in all the gaps and solving problems of how you can (and will) achieve your goals. You can create your own positive open-ended questions to fit whatever goal you’re working toward.

With this new way of inquiring, you’re requiring your brain step up and be creative. Use discipline to start (and continue) asking yourself the right questions. Questions that will set you up for success.
4 more strategies to actually make those goals happen
If you know me at all, you’ll know that I love formulas and simple processes. Why? Because it gets me results. You can break down the following goal process into 4 steps or use them as individual strategies. Whichever way works for you, I highly recommend taking yourself through it for each goal that you’re ready to achieve.

1.Know your “why”
Why is achieving this goal important for you? Why do you truly want this? You need to get to the heart of the driving force of why is it that you want to lose this weight, or why is it that you want to build this business, or why is it that you want whatever it is that you really want?

2. Prioritize
Setting priorities sets yourself up for success. I can’t tell you how many people say “I want to grow this business and retire my husband” but then they never create a plan of action to carry out. You have to make room in your day to actually work toward goals.

Prioritize

And this is why you need to prioritize. You only have 24 hours in your day. But guess what? Beyonce and Richard Branson only have 24 hours in the day too! It comes down to priorities.

You have to carve out time on your calendar to get the work done. If your goal is weight loss, you need to block out time on your calendar to go to the gym and to create and prepare healthy meals. If your goal is to build your business, you need to build in time to do the networking and create the content.

3. Enlist help
Keep yourself accountable by enlisting help. If you could have done it on your own with your current knowledge, you would have done it already. Right? I can guarantee you that high performers get help so that they can focus on their zone of genius.

Enlist Others

There are a lot of ways to enlist help, from building your support squad in an accountability group, a fitness group, a mastermind, and/or a coach,

I find that if I don’t personally pay for accountability I tend not to use it. I even pay for coaching from my spiritual mentor. Those who hold me accountable require me to show up and do the work. Even high achievers get help, wait, let’s rephrase that. ESPECIALLY high achievers get help!

4. Immerse yourself
Stay accountable to reaching your goals by immersing yourself and fully understanding the goal and all the action to get there. For example, the keto diet is really popular right now. If I was going to do it, I would learn the science of how the body switches from carbohydrate to fat metabolism, I would look at case studies, I would take the courses, get the books, and then surround myself with people who’ve already had positive outcomes. When you were surrounded by people who have already achieved what you want, you can’t help but want to get there too.

Understand your why, set yourself up for success, and list help, and immerse yourself. It’s that simple. And also… that hard. Get started today by asking yourself better questions and your path to success will unfold before you.