If you’re anything like me, your email inbox is probably crowded.
(How many unopened emails do you have, anyway?!?!)
And, most likely, your phone is constantly pinging with new notifications and your Facebook feed is noisy and loaded with (sometimes boring or irritating) status updates! How many texts did you get today? How many Instagram notifications? How many emails flooded your inbox? It was a lot, right? Like if you had a dollar for every notification . . .
If you’re reading this and nodding your head right now, can I just remind you of something near and dear to my heart? You deserve peace and quiet, especially in a world that feels overwhelming.
In a noisy, mentally cluttered world, quiet is the new luxury.
With all the endless notifications, I find that many people don’t realize they DO NOT have to respond to them all! If you need permission, friend, here it is: you’re allowed to turn off your phone.
You’re allowed to carve out an hour each and every day to find your inner peace. Whether you find your peace through prayer, meditation, walking in nature, or a form of mindful movement, your time commitment to yourself matters.
Here’s what often happens, though, when you take time for you:
Those who are committed to misunderstanding you will scream SELFISH!
- Who does she think she is that she can just take off and go to a yoga/spin/pilates class?
- Must cost a lot every month keeping up with those manicures/pedicures/massages. . .
- A women’s’ retreat? Who’s taking care of her kids?
- A personal development program? Who does she think she is?
- Well that’s all well and good that she has the time to get up and journal and meditate every morning, but some of us have a lot of work to do.
Those who are inspired by you will love you even more and will be empowered to create their own routines and habits that lift them higher.
- She’s committing to a 30-day yoga challenge? I’ve always wanted to try that!
- I want my hands and feet to look great every time I look down at them – or – oh my gosh, I can’t remember the last time I had a massage when it wasn’t my birthday.
- Wait. . . mothers are allowed to go on retreats/trips/vacations?! I’m absolutely craving a weekend away so I can think clearly.
- I can’t believe how much she’s transforming. How does that even happen? That’s amazing.
- I’m sick of feeling rushed and stressed as soon as I roll out of bed. I want to try those morning routines too.
You’re not only allowed to take this precious time for yourself, but it could (and I’m not trying to preach here, but it should) become a part of what you do and who you are. A routine and practice of cultivating peace and quiet could inspire your children, your friends, or anyone else you meet. You never know who might be looking to you as an example of what they themselves could reach.
What calming practices work for you? Whether it’s a spiritual practice, a social connection, physical exercise, a meditation practice, or a combination of all of them, do you schedule them on your calendar and make time for them? Because making time for those activities is how you make time for yourself. Let me tell you, girl, you’re definitely worth spending a couple of hours a week with.
If you only do one thing, turn off your phone for a while.
I know you get a lot of notifications. I get it. I’m running two businesses and have three children who are all still in school. Some notifications are really important (okay, some are critical, but most of them are not even close). And let me be totally honest with you: I like results and I like them fast. I like working hard and I like efficiency. But sometimes even I have to remind myself that slowing down and demanding stillness from myself is what will get me to where I want to go. Oftentimes even faster.
But clearing your mind and heart is like going from the middle of a traffic jam in rush hour Manhattan to the top floor of a skyscraper with sweeping views of the city skyline. Your life may be crowded, noisy, and busy, but it’s not at the top. From this elevated viewpoint, it’s expansive and peaceful, and you can hear your soul speaking to you.
Quiet actually isn’t the new luxury; it’s a necessity if you want to grow into the woman you’re truly meant to be.
Now it’s time for you to implement! Need some ideas?
- Guided meditations
- Regular massages
- Manicures and pedicures in a soothing environment where you feel cared for
- Yoga (and other exercise) classes
- Morning tea and journaling without looking at a phone
These are a few options that I personally love, but I’d love to hear about the routines and practices that lift you higher! Leave me a comment and tell me what you do when you feel overwhelmed and need to find inner peace and calm.