I have a friend who was raised by an alcoholic father. She shared some amazing perspective with me, that I just have to share. Maybe you can relate to her story yourself or know someone else who’s had a similar experience. The thing is – I think this perspective can help EVERYONE. We all have painful memories – ones we’d rather not have enter our minds ever again – but they have a lot to teach us.
Our minds are wired to identify problems. We’re set up to figure out what’s wrong, what’s missing, etc. Someone who’s seeking growth, enlightenment, empowerment, and positivity always finds a way to see a different perspective…and that’s how she began her story. “I was raised by an alcoholic father and that gave me a unique perspective…” She’s already setting me, and herself, up to learn something from her difficult childhood.
I heard another amazing person take a similar approach to her painful memories when she was accepting an award. She was talking about a house fire when she was a child. Her home burned to the ground – she and her parents lost everything. Instead of this being a sob story, she also focused on the unique perspective it gave her.
So…here’s the thing. EVERYTHING that happens to us, in our lives, we have a choice. We can view it as “this bad thing happened to me and my life has been terrible since.” OR we can take those awful experiences and see what we can learn from them, how we can USE them to make our lives MORE enriched, MORE fulfilling. We can view them as an OPPORTUNITY rather than a situation that’s holding us back.
Take this perspective and apply to everything in your life. You’ll start to see that life offers abundant opportunities for growing, learning, prospering…for gaining.
You always have a choice. You can look at things from a place of lack and feel sad about your life. OR you can CHOOSE to look at things from a place of opportunity, where every hard moment is a chance to learn and grow. Which will you choose today?