I stumbled on a whole new concept this morning – and it came out of my own mouth! I love those moments and now I’ve just got to share it with you!
If you’re like I was, you’re pretty independent and you run your life, and your business, with an “I’ve got this” mentality. You basically exist in a silo and take everything on yourself. Sound familiar? Yeah, that was totally me when I started in this business.
Here’s the thing, as super independent, high achieving women, that’s how we’re wired, BUT it isn’t always the best way to get the success we want. You feel it’s better to do it yourself because it’s easier, or because you don’t trust someone to do it “right,” or you feel like no one else will really understand.
I call that living in a silo. And there’s definitely some benefit. You don’t have to argue with people or train anyone…but it’s also pretty lonely. You know I’m right. Even if you think you’re totally rocking, it’s very lonely with no one to banter ideas with and no one to cheerlead you.
Even worse, you have no one to sharpen you.
Smart, ambitious, bold women run in packs. The pack sharpens you, strengthens you. Sure, you may have to argue and train people, but you know what? That’s kind of the point! Doing those things that feel uncomfortable and make the silo seem okay pushes you outside your comfort zone and pushes you to grow.
So if you’re ready to find your pack, here are some things you can do.
When I started looking for my pack, the first thing I did was pray about it. Ask the Universe for it. It works because I turned around one day and realized I got exactly what I asked for.
While you’re asking and waiting, there are things you can do to make it happen.
- Put yourself out there. Organize a group of women with common interests or join some that already exist. They may not be the perfect fit, but it’s a place to start.
- Create with intention and purpose, a network of women who are as excited to be around you on a regular basis as you are with them. Meet with them weekly, have a Facebook group, etc.
If you’re comfortable in the silo, that’s fine, but if you want your pack, start asking for it. And then get out there and look for it. Put yourself out there. Reach out, even if you don’t know them in person. Be brave and take steps with intention to create your pack.